The messages found here were obtained from the works of Fr. Although these messages have not been validated by the parish in Medjugorje, great care was taken in their recording, translation, and compilation. We have also included messages compiled by Fr.
Marital Issues You married a man who has not yet separated emotionally from his mother.
How can you tell? The message to you, his wife or lover, if you want to drop the married part is, you can marry my son but I stay number one in his emotional life. Can you tell there is an underlying emotional maybe physical competition going on in this message?
Of course you can. The problem is, your husband has not yet left his mother.
Some men reach adulthood but they are not yet finished with their mothers. If my advice is heeded things could turn out OK. The plan is, stay bonded to mom until such time that you are convinced that it is time to separate, meaning go off and commit to another woman.
This other woman, your wife, in effect becomes 1 in your new life. And by the way, your marriage has a better chance of surviving if this more complete commitment has occurred. When your mother-in-law is still pulling the strings on her son, things can get pretty dicey especially when there is conflict between you and your husband.
She is really only thinking of her own needs and not the needs of her son or her daughter-in-law for that matter. Now you have a dependent son and a narcissistic mother. This co-dependent arrangement when it hits adulthood is bound to create dysfunction in both.
The dysfunction often shows up the clearest in their relationships with others.
The two most common triangles are: For her husband it might be over-work, another woman, or simply emotional withdrawal. This triangle indicates that there are two women vying for one man. This never works out well. Conflicts increase over time and allegiances are strained.
This is quite common in contemporary marriages. Parenting is supposed to be a time-limited function and we are not supposed to nurture our own parents. We are supposed to put a big part of the love we have inside into our own lives.
In my experience, once sons in this trap start feeling bad and looking for a way out, this idea of having personal choice and rights has the potential of putting a pretty healthy fire in their bellies.
From then on it becomes a matter of gaining personal freedom and owning your own love life. If his marriage survives his separation from his mother guilthe and his wife will be able to have more of the marriage they dreamed of.My Mother’s Strength I was at a loss for what to write in here today.
Earlier, I wrote a submission for a fellow blogger’s December blog series.
I wasn’t feeling particularly blocked until I came over here to my own blog and settled down to create a post for the day. Autobiography of My Mother is a powerful, mesmerizing, and other-worldy tale of Xuela, a woman of Dominica, West Indies, who is a worthy subject for Kincaid's musical cadences and rapturous prose.
My mother has taught me that strength and independence are important in life and that I can never stop at what I want to do. I am very thankful for the love and life I receive from my mother.
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I lost my mother to cancer on 9/2/ I wrote this in her honor. She wasn't just a mom to me; she was my best friend. My heart breaks for anyone who loses their mom.
May you, too, find comfort in these words. God bless.